Authenticity Always Wins
“I don’t want to have a boring life” she said.
“What do you mean?” I responded.
“You know, what everybody does. I’m done here in 2 months. Then what? Go get a job at an insurance company or in customer service like everyone else?”
“Maybe” I said, “Is that what you want?”
“No, of course not.”
“But if its ok for them, why isn’t it ok for you?”
“Because” she said, “It sounds insanely boring. I’m supposed to take over our family business, but I have no idea how to do that. I also don’t want to spend my entire life working. I want to gain experience before I try to run the company my father has built, but I don’t want to go down the traditional path that everyone else does to get it. I don’t think I can do it. Spend 5-10 years of my life in a cubicle? No. Not for me.”
“Well, have you told your family this?” I asked.
“That’s a good place to start.”
Real conversation. Real student. This is not uncommon. Nearly every student I’ve worked with feels this way. People struggle with authenticity. In 2019, this can’t happen. We can’t hide anymore. We are illuminated from every angle. Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, SoundCloud, all these platforms have become engrained in our culture.
The bullshit of that is, it creates a lot of noise. Noise that distracts us from what’s important. Finding our what our story is and how we fit into the every changing circumstances around us. The noise tells us we need to major in this topic, or take this job.
Don’t listen. It’s not worth it. Find your story. Live your life. This may hurt sometimes. It may hurt us when we fail. It will definitely hurt those around us when we choose to engage in something they don’t feel is best for us. And, it will be a pain in the ass to hear them say, “I told you so.”
But all that aside, this journey is necessary. Don’t misinterpret me. I’m NOT suggesting you ignore everyone’s advice and I’m NOT telling you to be reckless and uncalculated. What I am saying is you need to start your journey or you’ll unfairly and subconsciously resent the one’s you love the most.
This is unfair because the choice was yours all along.
Don’t be unfair. Don’t be resentful. Be authentic.
It may hurt for a minute, but the long term trajectory of authenticity, always wins out over the short term gains created by following a crowd or fighting for attention.